Exercise 89

My Perpetrators

In the previous exercise, you took a look at the abuses and neglects you experienced during your growing up years. In this exercise, you are going to look at the people who were involved in these abuses and neglects.

I know at this point, you may be going into extremely painful territory. So painful that many of these issues may be the pain you were medicating for many years. It is important for your recovery and continued growth that you look at these abuses and neglects that you suffered.

In many of the incidences that you have experienced, you may have known the perpetrator's name. For some, these events happened in your own home by parents, stepparents, siblings or extended family. In other cases, there may be a casual relationship that preceded the abuse (i.e. a school teacher, another child at school, or a neighbor). You may not know the perpetrator's name. Maybe it happened once and you never saw that person again.

Whatever the name or relationship was, these events have been indelibly written into your life. Now it is time to write down your perpetrator's name (if known), relationship (if any), and the type of abuse that occurred and an approximate age that abuse/neglect happened.

Name/Relationship Abuse/Neglect Age

J. /Mother Emotional Abuse Ongoing

D. /Father Emotional Abuse Ongoing

D. /Sister Emotional Abuse Ongoing

D. /Brother Emotional Abuse 10yrs. +

H. / Mat. Grandmother Emotional Abuse Ongoing

J. / Pat. Grandfather Emotional Abuse Ongoing

B./ Uncle Physical Abuse 6yrs

J. / Mother Physical Abuse 3-6yrs, 12yrs

D. / Father Physical Abuse ~10yrs

D. / Sister Physical Abuse Ongoing

J. / Mother Spiritual Abuse 4 yrs +

B. / Cousin Sexual Abuse 7yrs - 14 yrs

J. / Mother Emotional Neglect Ongoing

J. / Mother Sexual Neglect 11yrs +